I received this email below from my friend Amanda in 2005 and thought I would respond. I saved this email in a folder I found when I was cleaning out my files. I thought I would share it.
A RELATIONSHIP STORY
In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question, "What kind of man are you looking for?" She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking "Do you really want to know?" Reluctantly, he said, "Yes." And she began to expound...
"As a woman in this day and age I am in a position to ask a man what he can do for me that I can't do for myself. I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man. I am in the position to ask, "What can you bring to the table?"
The man looked at her. Clearly, he thought that she was referring to money.
She quickly corrected his thoughts and stated, "I am not referring to money. I need something more." I need a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of life."
He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, and asked her to explain.
She said, "I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection mentally because I need conversation and mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man. I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked... believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for perfection financially because I don't need a financial burden. I am loooking for someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded. I am looking for someone who I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive... he just has to be WORTHY. God made woman to be a helpmate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself."
When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, "You're asking a lot."
She replied, "I'm WORTH A LOT."
Send this to every person who's worth a lot and every partner who needs to know that.
Well it will never happen. There is no perfect man because there is no perfect person. Sometimes you will find you are helping him financially because he is down and out. Sometimes he will help you financially because you spent all your money. Some men are religious but not spiritual an so a woman can introduce him to spirituality which is the experience of God instead of the sermons and the dogma. Sometimes a man is depressed because he's human and needs comfort just like sometimes we as women are emotional and need someone to tell us it will all be ok in the end. We pray together daily and ask for God's blessings in our life and for our families but we may have different Gods so we believe different things based on our understanding of God and our upbringing Intellectually a man who is open-minded doesn't have to be well-read. He's teachable and you'll know how smart he is because he listens and doesn't think because he's a man, he has superior intelligence and knows it all. Sometimes he knows stuff you don't know like how to fix a refrigerator or a car or build a fence! We are not exactly the same but we have to give to each other equally and know when it's our turn to give and not just take. And any woman looking for perfection is probably egotistical and has a superiority complex masking an inferiority complex because there is no such thing as perfection, only human becomings. We are all striving to grow in this world. Who you're with is where you're at. They are your mirror. If you want to change the mirror, then start with yourself FIRST.
And she replied:
Now that is the best advice I've read in awhile!!