Conscious Relationships in the Aquarian Age

Many of us marry when we are in a state of romantic euphoria. This surge of energy we feel around a particular person is that an unknown aspect of ourselves has been projected onto them. This is what generates the remarkable “spark” that gets ignited. The intensity and intoxication we feel are clues that this transference of our own energy has occurred. Because it’s unconscious, we think we are relating to them.

Dr. Carl Jung, world renown psychiatrist explained that what is missing in us will be highly attractive when we see it in someone else and relating is how we get to know ourselves. We all mistakenly believe we know ourselves but what we know is only what we are conscious of which is like the tip of an iceberg. No one knows their whole self. It really is a life-long process to bring unconscious contents to consciousness. He called this the process of individuation — becoming whole and complete.

There really are two lives that we live. One is the first half of life written externally by fate and our environment. The second half of life we write ourselves.

In every relationship, the beginning is when we put our best foot forward for a time but eventually the “new” wears off and we end up in polarized situations with our partner. Our unlived life will be calling us to see it and becomes more intense. This does not necessarily mean it has to be a romantic partner but a romantic partner helps us grow faster as the intimacy is more pronounced. Our friends, our coworkers, our bosses, our sibl