Self Hypnosis for Self Esteem
When I was in my early thirties, I learned about hypnosis and more importantly self-hypnosis as that can be done in your own voice recorded onto a tape recorder. I use a small Olympus recorder and you can usually find one on Ebay for about $30. or any other small recorder.
First, you have to know exactly what you want to program for. Here we will focus on Self Esteem. Write down exactly what you want in the affirmative. In other words you already have it. It is an accomplished fact for you so that you already love yourself.
EXAMPLE AFFIRMATIONS:
I, Rebeca love myself more and more every day.
I feel the energy of the cosmos is supporting me.
I am self honest and take responsibility for my happiness.
I know that there are no accidents and all happenings are for my growth, my wholeness.
I am happy when I am with myself (instead of by myself).
I treat myself in a loving way and daily choose what is healthy physically, spiritually and emotionally.
I am mastering my life with equanimity.
I am in gratitude for all that I have.
I am attracting loving, reciprocal relationships and we meet each other half way.
I am dynamic and making a difference in those who come into my life.
I am communicating honestly and effectively in all my interactions.
I am drawing to myself partners, friends and family who support my efforts at self love.
I am opening my heart more and more with every day.
I feel with my heart and with my mind. Both are guiding my choices.
I am compassionate with others and with myself.
I am in balance with giving and receiving.
I look forward to every day.
I am in the right place at the right time for my highest good. What I seek is seeking me.
I feel my connection to the divine in all that I do.
There are many great affirmations in Shakti Gawain's book, Creative Visualization so I highly recommend getting a copy of it and adding it as part of your spiritual practice. It was instrumental in my learning to grow my own self esteem. (More about that below).
SELF HYPNOSIS RELAXATION:
Then you have to relax your body with a count down so speak this into a tape recorder:
Take 5 very deep breaths inhale and exhale.
I am now relaxing my toes. My toes are relaxing.
I am now relaxing my feet. They are relaxing more and more.
I now feel my ankles and my calves. They are relaxing.
My thighs and legs are completely relaxed.
I move now to my fingers. I feel they are relaxing.
I am now feeling my hands completely relaxed. My arms are relaxing.
Now I move to my lower abdomen and my buttocks. They are relaxing.
I now feel my heart, my chest and my shoulders completely relaxed.
I am now feeling my lower back and my spine. My lower back and my spine are relaxing.
I now feel my neck and my cheeks and face. They are relaxing. I feel completely relaxed.
My scalp and every part of my head is relaxed. Every muscle. Every part of me, my entire body is in a state of deep relaxation.
I am breathing in and out and the entire Universe is surrounding me with the light of love inside and outside of me enveloping me in it's kindness. I am going to now take myself even further down with the count of 7. Down. Down. Down. 6. Deeper. Deeper. Deeper. 5. Down. Down. Down. 4. Deeper. Deeper. Deeper. 3. Down. Down. Down. 2. Deeper. Deeper. Deeper. 1. Down. Down. Down. I am now completely relaxed in every part of me is in a deep hypnotic sleep. Sleep. Sleep. I am now going to give myself positive affirmations which are my reality. My thoughts and words and actions change my life. I am in a state of perfect peace and open to the flow of my higher truths.
Be still 1 - 2 minutes.
Then you begin your affirmations.
I Rebeca love myself more and more every day, etc.
Write about 35-50 affirmations.
At first you may or may not feel the total relaxation but after a few days, it will start to happen as your body does learn to relax. Saying kind, loving and supportive thoughts to feed your spirit as you are in that deep hypnotic state will reprogram the negative thoughts that plaque you.
Another good book I can recommend for hypnosis is by Jose Silva called Silva Mind Control. He teaches you to count from 100 to 1 backwards with your eyes closed and if you have never meditated, trust me, it’s awesome because eventually with practice you will be able to be in a crowded airport and count 7-6-5-4-3-2-1 and be there instantly relaxed. You will know you are “there” as you will not feel your body. That is how relaxation will feel. Then your unconscious is open to suggestion and that is what is very helpful about self-hypnosis.
What Does Self-Esteem Look Like?
• You can talk about success and failure with honesty and ease.
• You find it easy to give and receive compliments.
• You can demonstrate being affectionate and acknowledging of others.
• You are open to criticism and own up to mistakes. No need to be perfect.
• You can be accountable, admit it to yourself and can correct your mistakes.
• You practice what you preach in your daily life.
• You have the confidence to overcome obstacles on your path.
• You exhibit lightheartedness and a sense of humor.
• You are flexible and cooperative when need be.
• You are comfortable with being assertive (vs. aggressive).
• You have a purposeful walk and good posture.
• You are compassionate with others but also with yourself.
• You know you are a work in progress in a state of becoming your true Self.
• You feel one with the whole as your heart is open.
Self-Esteem Test
Ask yourself this: Do I feel proud of and satisfied with the moral choices I have been making?
If the answer is yes, congratulations! You probably have a healthy dose of self-esteem.
If the answer is no, make a list of your own personal rules for living, the principals you want to live by and then start integrating these principals into your daily life. In other words, begin to act with integrity. Begin to notice how it affects the way you feel about yourself, how it affects your self-esteem.
KNOW THYSELF
Part of loving yourself is also to know yourself more fully. This is where Astrology and Shadow Work come in. I first learned about our “Shadow Selves” in 1990. It was amazing to me to find out there were people inside me making choices and even saying things out loud that I didn’t want to say. I read Jung’s autobiography, Memories, Dreams, Reflections more than once. I started to go into my inner world to learn about the wholeness that we are which is both dark and light. No one alive is all light. We each have a dark side (unconscious parts of us hidden from our awareness).
Retrieving these hidden parts is a life-long journey but our self esteem is key. If we have no self esteem, it’s hard to do shadow work. By bringing the shadow into our awareness, it alone allows us to become “conscious.” We can’t change anything or accept anything about us until we are aware of it. We will discover that consciousness is being developed by the choices we make daily.
Knowing your astrology is extremely helpful. We are not born tabula rasa (blank slates). We are born with archetypal predispositions and knowing your astrology is like seeing a blue print of our psyche in all it’s complexity.
If you are interested in being on my email list, please scroll to the bottom of HOME and add your name and if you know it, your birthday, date, time and place and I will send you a Free Edgar Cayce Karmic Report about yourself. There are also some very inexpensive Merlin + Karmic reports and I have also created a webinar that is very comprehensive called Shadow Work & Your 7th House. It is a membership portal with one time fee for life. There are also many YouTubes, articles, etc. and my group page on Facebook is: Shadow Dancing and Your Relationships. I post there weekly so you are welcome to come join that too.
Last but not least, I also want to highly recommend Liz Greene’s Psychological Analysis Report. Liz Greene is a world famous Astrologer as she is also a Jungian analyst and a prolific author of many books. This psychological report helped me to see what I was unaware of in my self as the reports are deeply psychological and eye opening. I first read it in 1988 and was amazed at how accurate it was but I could not see that the Shadow she described was me. It took me two more years to see that what she had said in the report was true.
I was fortunate to be lead to an Espiscopal Priest/Jungian Analyst who I have studied with for 30+ years. His web site and podcast are also a great resource: pittmanmcgehee.com.
SOME FAVORITE QUOTES BY CARL JUNG “Filling the conscious mind with ideal conceptions is a characteristic of Western theosophy, but not the confrontation with the Shadow and the world of darkness. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious. The latter procedure, however, is disagreeable and therefore not popular.”
— CW 13: Alchemical Studies, par 335, pg 265
“Most people confuse ‘self-knowledge’ with knowledge of their conscious ego personalities. Anyone who has any ego-consciousness at all takes it for granted that he knows himself. But the ego knows only its own contents, not the unconscious and its contents. People measure their self-knowledge by what the average person in their social environment knows of himself, but not the real psychic facts which are for the most part hidden from them.”
CW 10 - Civilization in Transition, The Undiscovered Self
(Present and Future), par 491, pg 249
To confront a person with his shadow is to show him his own light. Once one has experienced a few times what it is like to stand judgingly between the opposites, one begins to understand what is meant by the self. Anyone who perceives his shadow and his light simultaneously sees himself from two sides and thus gets in the middle.
CW10: Civilization in Transition, par 872, pg 463
